Other Drinkers.

Being sober around drinkers can be tough. But not impossible.

Maintaining sobriety while living with or spending time with drinkers requires clear strategies and strong boundaries:

Understanding the Challenge:

Common Situations:

• Partner drinks at home

• Family gatherings with alcohol

• Shared social circles

• Holiday celebrations

• Regular routines involving alcohol ​

Potential Complications:

• Triggers in your living space

• Relationship dynamics

• Social pressure

• Emotional challenges

• Lifestyle differences

Creating a Supportive Environment:

Physical Space:

• Designated alcohol-free areas

• Separate storage for drinks

• Your own beverage space

• Clear visual boundaries

• Safe retreat spaces ​

• Communication Strategies

With Partner:

• Express your needs clearly

• Share your triggers

• Discuss compromises

• Set boundaries

• Plan together

With Family:

• Communicate your decision

• Request support

• Share your boundaries

• Explain your needs

• Stay firm but kind

Personal Boundaries:

• What you're comfortable with

• Your limits and triggers

• Your non-negotiables

• Your support needs

• Your safe spaces

Household Boundaries:

• Alcohol storage

• Drinking areas

• Social gatherings

• Shared activities

• Recovery support

Practical Solutions:

For Home Life:

• Create alcohol-free zones

• Stock non-alcoholic alternatives

• Develop new shared rituals

• Plan sober activities

• Establish quiet spaces ​

For Social Situations:

• Arrive early, leave early

• Bring your own drinks

• Have an exit strategy

• Plan alternative activities

• Stay connected with support system ​

For Emotional Support:

• Build external support network

• Attend support groups

• Maintain personal practices

• Seek counselling if needed

• Connect with a ober community

Managing Relationship Dynamics:

With Partner:

• Regular check-ins

• Shared understanding

• Mutual respect

• Open communication

• Collaborative problem-solving ​

With Family:

• Clear expectations

• Consistent boundaries

• Respectful dialogue

• Alternative traditions

• New ways to connect

Remember:

• Your sobriety comes first

• Others' choices are their own

• You deserve support and understanding

• Boundaries are healthy and necessary

• Change is possible while maintaining relationships